Your Relationship IMPROVES Your Health… Here’s Why!

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In episode 87, Kim and Rog explore the connection between strong relationships and improved health outcomes. The episode dives into the research behind why happy couples tend to experience lower stress, better mental health, and even reduced risks of heart disease and other major health issues.

The Science Behind Relationships and Health

Kim and Rog start by breaking down the research that demonstrates how being in a satisfying relationship can significantly improve your health. Rog highlights longitudinal studies that show married couples or those in long-term partnerships tend to live longer compared to single individuals. This is particularly true for men, who, according to studies, benefit greatly from being in relationships because they are more likely to receive the support and health care they need when prompted by their partners. Men, historically, are less likely to take care of themselves, so having a supportive partner can increase their life expectancy.

Kim then explains that couples who report higher levels of satisfaction in their relationships are more likely to experience better health outcomes. She outlines four main health benefits associated with satisfying relationships:

Lower Cortisol Levels (Reduced Stress)

Kim shares research showing that happy couples tend to have lower cortisol levels. Cortisol is the hormone linked to stress, and while it’s normal for stress to spike occasionally, remaining in a heightened state of stress can have negative health impacts, including inflammation and immune dysfunction. Happy couples are better able to manage stress because they can lean on each other for support. They share each other’s burdens, helping to mitigate the long-term effects of chronic stress.

Improved Sleep Quality

Satisfying relationships also lead to better sleep. Kim and Rog explain that couples in happy relationships are more likely to enjoy restful, uninterrupted sleep because they feel safe and secure with their partners. Sleep plays a crucial role in overall health, influencing everything from immune function to memory and even weight management. By reducing stress and creating a peaceful home environment, couples set themselves up for better sleep and, consequently, better health.

Better Mental Health

According to the American Psychological Association (APA), individuals in supportive relationships report lower rates of depression and anxiety. Kim highlights that the mental health benefits of a strong relationship cannot be overstated. When partners provide emotional support, empathy, and understanding, it creates a sense of security that can ward off feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and depression.

Less Risky Behaviour and Substance Abuse

Kim and Rog explain that people in satisfying relationships are less likely to engage in risky behaviours or substance abuse. This is because secure attachment and emotional support create a sense of stability, reducing the need for harmful coping mechanisms. Studies on attachment theory support this, showing that individuals in secure relationships are less likely to turn to destructive behaviours in times of stress.

The Impact of Having a Satisfied Partner

One of the most fascinating points Kim and Rog discuss is research that shows not only does being in a satisfying relationship improve your health, but having a satisfied partner is also crucial. Rog cites a study published in Psychological Science which found that participants with happy spouses tended to live longer—even more so than those who were satisfied with their own lives. This highlights the importance of focusing on your partner’s well-being as a way to improve the overall health of the relationship ecosystem.

Kim ties this back to the idea of interdependence, explaining that when you nurture your partner and focus on their happiness, the benefits are mirrored back into your own life. It’s an example of how relationships function as an ecosystem—what you give out comes back to you, creating a healthier, more supportive environment.

The Power of a Supportive Environment

In the final part of the episode, Kim and Rog talk about the importance of shared health and fitness goals. Couples who work together toward goals like weight loss, fitness challenges, or healthier eating habits are more likely to succeed. This mutual support not only helps them reach their goals but also strengthens the relationship by reinforcing teamwork and collaboration. Kim shares how she and Rog are currently training for a half Ironman together, and how having each other’s support has made the journey easier and more enjoyable.