What it’s Like Being Together for 22 years

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In episode 72 of ‘Living the Team Life’, Kim and Rog reflect on their 22-year journey together, answering questions about the highs and lows, navigating challenges, and the lessons they’ve learned.

The episode is structured around three main themes that often come up when discussing long-term relationships: history, change and growth, and fun. Kim and Rog decide to answer questions related to these themes, providing a candid look into their relationship.

Long History:

Rog addresses the first question about how they let go of past hurts after 22 years. He emphasizes the importance of looking forward and maintaining a vision for the future. They acknowledge that they did hurt each other in their younger years but have since developed the skills and tools to work through these issues. Rog highlights that their shared vision and understanding of their youthful mistakes help them move past old grievances.

Kim adds that while they don’t dwell on the past, it’s essential to understand that letting go doesn’t mean erasing memories. Instead, it’s about not allowing past hurts to affect the present. She notes that they’ve worked hard individually and together to avoid staying stuck in past feelings, which has been crucial for their growth.

Change and Growth:

Kim and Rog discuss the significant changes and growth they’ve experienced over the years. Rog shares his surprise at how well they work together in business, despite their different personalities and approaches. He reflects on their success in starting a house-flipping business and how their complementary skills have led to impressive results.

Kim brings up becoming carers as the most unexpected turn in their relationship. She describes how this role has profoundly impacted their lives and strengthened their bond despite the challenges. Kim expresses her surprise at how their relationship has become tighter through the process, highlighting their resilience and ability to lean on each other.

Rog talks about maintaining stability amidst these changes, attributing their success to their rituals and consistent communication. He mentions their daily morning ritual of spending quality time together, which has provided a sense of continuity and stability. Kim agrees, emphasizing the importance of talking about everything and not letting issues fester, which has prevented resentment and maintained their overall stability.

Fun:

Finally, Kim and Rog discuss how they keep fun alive in their relationship. Kim shares their New Year’s Eve tradition of enjoying wagyu steak and good wine at home, a pivot they made due to their daughter’s needs. This tradition has become a cherished part of their relationship, symbolizing their ability to adapt and find joy in the little things.

Rog highlights their love for outdoor activities, whether it’s walking, kayaking, tennis, or bush hiking. He notes that these activities keep them bonded and bring numerous benefits, including physical health and mental well-being. Their shared love for the outdoors has been a constant source of fun and connection throughout their relationship.