The Benefits of Practicing Gratitude Together

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In this weeks episode, hosts Kim and Rog delve into a thoughtful discussion on the transformative power of gratitude, illustrating through studies, anecdotes, and insightful advice, how such a simple practice can radically invigorate our emotional, psychological, and physical health.

The podcast begins with the hosts diving into the core essence of gratitude. Rather than a fleeting sentiment, Kim and Rog underline gratitude as a conscious recognition and appreciation of the goodness derived from one’s life. Be it in personal strengths, positive experiences, random acts of kindness, or in overcoming challenges, they emphasize that gratitude is the recognition and thankful acknowledgment of the good as opposed to ignoring the bad.

The hosts also shine a light on studies testifying to the significant influence of gratitude on mental well-being. By fostering positive emotions, gratitude serves as a catalyst in reducing stress hormone levels and stimulating the parasympathetic nervous system that facilitates relaxation and healing. Moreover, they note that gratitude elicits certain brain activities that are associated with empathy, social bonding, and reward processing, thereby instilling a sense of joy, connection, and satisfaction.

However, Kim and Rog punctuate the conversation with a note of caution against toxic positivity. They argue that gratitude must emanate from within, as an individual practice, and should not be forcibly imposed on others, as it leads to the invalidation of their experiences.

They introduce the concept of ‘positive cognitive bias’ where gratitude practices stimulate a shift in perspective towards the positive, escalating levels of happiness and satisfaction. Backing this up with a heartfelt anecdote, from the founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg about the story of an Indian boy, Stunzan, whose gratitude towards a rusty playground has inspired 100,000s of people (through Hugh’s story) to embrace the practice of gratitude in order to improve their mental health.

Toward the latter part of the discussion, our hosts delve into the benefits of practicing gratitude within a relationship. They suggest that the act of regularly expressing gratitude creates a nurturing environment for shared positive emotions, thereby fortifying emotional intimacy, improving communication, and deepening the bonds between partners.

To implement this practice, Kim and Rog recommend ‘habit stacking’, where gratitude is added onto (or ‘stacked’) existing daily routines. By expressing gratitude each day, couples are provided with opportunities to communicate, bond, and collectively experience the rejuvenating impact of gratitude.

Through evidence-based research, personal anecdotes and practical advice, Kim and Rog discuss the benefits for couples of adopting gratitude as a personal ritual, as a shared practice, and as a vital tool to strengthen their relationships.