Highlights From Our 5 Most Popular Episodes

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In this weeks episode, hosts Kim and Rog take a stroll down memory lane discussing highlights from their top five most popular episodes of Living the Team Life..

In the top-rated Episode 25, “Love is a Doing Word,” the hosts highlight the significance of active love.

They discuss how love in relationships is not merely an emotion but requires active, ongoing effort. Initially fueled by a “cocktail of chemicals,” early relationship behaviors are driven by natural motivations to please and connect with one’s partner. However, as these chemical effects diminish, the initial enthusiasm can wane, requiring partners to deliberately maintain their connection. They emphasize that love should not be “set and forget” but needs continuous nurturing, akin to tending a garden or refuelling a car. The hosts caution against assuming love will sustain itself without proactive effort, highlighting the risk of disconnect when one partner feels the relationship is fine while the other senses a growing gap.

The second most popular episode, Episode 29, trains a lens on “4 Communication Red Flags for Your Relationship.”

In this segment, Rog discusses his past tendency to “stonewall” during conflicts. He admits to often withdrawing from discussions, especially when overwhelmed, which leaves Kim feeling ignored and unseen. Kim notes that stonewalling tends to happen more frequently and earlier in conversations as conflicts escalate, making interactions unproductive and painful for the engaged partner. Rog reflects on how this avoidance becomes habitual, widening the emotional gap between partners. Kim warns that persistent stonewalling may lead to apathy, a critical threat to relationships, as it causes the neglected partner to eventually give up trying. Together, they highlight the destructive cycle created by stonewalling, which deepens divides and reinforces negative interactions.

In their third most listened-to episode, Episode 23, “How to Reduce Stress In Your Relationship,” the hosts explore the impact of stress on relationships.

Kim and Rog discuss the concept of a “stress cup,” using a visualization to explain how daily stressors accumulate and fill up one’s capacity for stress. Kim illustrates this with a narrative of a half-day in the life of a typical woman, showing how small, cumulative stressors can quickly add to the stress cup. She describes scenarios like sleep disturbances, clothing issues, rushed mornings, and overwhelming work emails, each adding incrementally to the stress levels.

Rog adds that these seemingly typical daily events don’t stand out as extraordinary but continuously compound, leading to significant stress accumulation by mid-morning. He emphasizes the importance of managing these stressors proactively to avoid reaching a breaking point, especially on an otherwise “typical” day. This example serves to highlight how everyday occurrences can substantially contribute to one’s stress levels if not addressed.

Episode 28, “3 Simple Steps to Start the Conversation with Your Partner,” comes fourth.

In this episode excerpt, Kim and Rog discuss the necessity of shifting from non-communication to active dialogue in relationships. They emphasize that discussing small issues is essential for addressing larger ones, as neglecting these conversations can lead to uninformed decisions that damage trust and connection. Rog highlights the importance of being intentional and sharing life actively together, rather than passively floating through it.

They address common communication barriers such as fear of conflict. Rog shares his personal challenges with avoiding discussions, which resulted in emotionally charged confrontations. Kim reflects on her past black-and-white thinking that complicated their conversations and acknowledges the importance of embracing discomfort to foster healthy communication. Together, they advocate for embracing challenges in discussions as a crucial step in relationship growth.

The fifth most popular episode, “Is Your Relationship Stuck?” Episode 01, discusses the concept of stagnation in relationships.

In this podcast segment, Kim and Rog discuss feeling stuck in a relationship as being trapped in a repetitive loop, akin to “Groundhog Day.” They describe this as having the same unresolved conversations and conflicts, which lead to a sense of helplessness. They reflect on their own experience of feeling directionless despite external successes, emphasizing that setting shared goals can help break this cycle. Rog notes that focusing solely on personal ambitions can deepen feelings of isolation within the relationship, suggesting that a team-oriented approach is crucial to overcoming these repetitive patterns.