Harry and Meghan

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In a recent episode of their podcast, Kim and Rog discuss the harmful effects of judgment on relationships and how Prince Harry and Meghan Markle embody the values of being a team. They begin by acknowledging that judgment is prevalent in today’s world and can be damaging when we don’t have awareness of our own tendency to judge others.

How we judge others and our partners

Kim and Rog note that their recent reflection on Harry and Meghan’s Netflix series highlighted the judgment that the couple has faced. They acknowledge that society has a social contract that when people put themselves in the public eye they open themselves up to judgement and criticism. While this is unfair, it is a reality. The hosts then discuss the impact of judgment, particularly in relationships, and how it can reduce connectedness and make it difficult for people to grow their connection with one another.

They emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing our own judgments, which can stem from our insecurities. To move beyond judgment and create meaningful relationships, we must cultivate awareness and empathy.

Kim and Rog offer tips on how to be more aware of and release judgmental thoughts, such as practicing self-compassion and non-judgment with oneself. They also discuss how taking a breath can help slow down the thinking process and allow for critical thinking, which can override past patterns and judgments.

The “Couple Bubble”

Moving onto Harry and Meghan’s relationship, Kim and Rog discuss the qualities that make them a great team. They note that the couple demonstrates respect and support in their partnership and have each other’s back. Despite facing significant challenges, such as public scrutiny and criticism, they have remained committed to each other and have created a life together that aligns with their values.

They discuss the concept of the “couple bubble” introduced by Dr. Stan Tatkin, a clinical researcher and therapist who specializes in couples therapy. The “couple bubble” is the idea that when two people come together in a relationship, the relationship becomes its own entity, forming a cocoon around them and creating a safe and secure environment.

Kim and Rog emphasize the importance of nurturing the relationship as a separate entity from the individuals involved, with its own identity and purpose. They encourage people to focus on nurturing their relationships and putting their partner first to create a strong and secure couple bubble.

Kim and Rog segue into discussing their experience of the “couple bubble” in their own relationship. They explain how prioritizing their relationship as a separate entity has allowed them to feel safe and secure to take risks and embark on new adventures. The couple bubble has enabled them to make decisions that benefit their relationship and treat it with respect.

The episode emphasizes the importance of awareness, empathy, and teamwork in creating meaningful relationships. By recognizing and addressing our own judgments, we can cultivate greater connection and create a life that aligns with our values. As demonstrated by Harry and Meghan, a strong partnership requires both parties to see the relationship as having its own identity, putting the relationship first and prioritising each other above all others.